I have known since I was around 14 that I’m into BDSM, but I always thought it was weird/shameful/abnormal, and so for the first few years of my sexual experiences I had very vanilla sex where the kinkiest thing I would do with my boyfriend would be doggy style. Even though it was still enjoyable, I always felt a little unfulfilled. Later when I started becoming more comfortable with my sexuality I wanted to experiment more, so when my sexual partner at the time asked me what I liked, I told him…spanking, hair-pulling, choking, among other things. We experimented with a lot of different kinks and I got to explore what I didn’t like, what I liked, and what I really, really, really liked.

Since then I’ve always told my sexual partners up-front what I enjoy, and any kind/generous partner should be willing to fulfill their partner’s fantasies, within reason. I’m having better sex than I have ever had, and I haven’t looked back since. Don’t be afraid to try new things/explore ! It’s your sex life, and it should be as fulfilling as you want it to be.

-19, Female, Hong Kong, Favorite animal: Panda